Most of us have been taught that in order to have a “good” relationship, you have to put the other person first. You’re supposed to make them the priority, “compromise” your desires for theirs, as though this is what will create a great relationship. We bend, fold, and mutilate ourselves in order to have what […]

Gary Douglas once asked me, “Have you acknowledged the difference that you be?” I was a bit confused, I thought I was sort of normal until that point. It set things in motion for me to really start to look at my difference and where I had made myself wrong for it. I spent a […]

The words ‘sexual healer’ are fraught with visions of prostitutes, wacky tantric healers, and people who are looking for others to be the source of their own sexual healing.  The area of sex & copulation is one of the most judged areas of our world, and where abuse, trauma, and invalidation are rampant. So what […]