Most of us have been taught that in order to have a “good” relationship, you have to put the other person first. You’re supposed to make them the priority, “compromise” your desires for theirs, as though this is what will create a great relationship. We bend, fold, and mutilate ourselves in order to have what […]

I wanted to write you a different kind of note today... It's an intense time in the world right now. Last night in the US we had our first presidential debates, California is having its worst fire season ever, and there is so much crazy going on. I wanted to reach out to you today […]

The words ‘sexual healer’ are fraught with visions of prostitutes, wacky tantric healers, and people who are looking for others to be the source of their own sexual healing.  The area of sex & copulation is one of the most judged areas of our world, and where abuse, trauma, and invalidation are rampant. So what […]